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The Wedding Guest List. It's been a big topic of
conversation in our household, and is still on going! To help make your lives
easier, here's a few questions we have asked ourselves about who to invite to
our big day. I’ll kick us off with one we got from close friends of ours:
- Would you go to dinner with them, and I mean just them? This one helped us cull A LOT of people
- Will you be friends with them in 10 years?
- Do you see them regularly outside of work, gym, any activities?
- And, most importantly are they absolutely over the moon for you two to get married?
Then there’s the controversial additions:
Plus ones
The on again off again partner, the friend of the
friend who will know nobody else at your wedding, the ex of another guest who
always makes a scene. You don’t need to feel compelled to hand out a plus one
to everybody. If it’s going to keep the peace, maybe consider inviting the
partner to the reception, or even just for a boogie and a drink later on in the
night.
The Longest Standing Friends
You’ve had them as long as you can remember, but
these days it’s a rarity to see them. If your relationship has been drifting
apart for years, don’t feel the urge to invite them – the likelihood is that
they probably aren’t expecting an invitation to come their way. If you really feel the need to include them, consider an invite to your hens or stag party instead.
Your Parents Friends
Their kids went to school with your other siblings,
or they’re part of a group your parents belong to. Either way, your parents are
adamant they want their attendance. No matter who they are, if you never see
them don’t feel pressured to invite them – unless of course your parents are
paying for the wedding, then you’re on your own girlfriend.
Children
It’s your big day, so if that means you want an
adults only ceremony, go ahead cut the children out of the picture. Do be sure
to clearly state this on the invite, so it’s out in the open and people can
make alternate arrangements. And besides, who wouldn’t be thankful for a night
off from their kids!?
You were invited to their Wedding
Now, usually it would go without saying that you
reciprocate the gesture, however if your friendship has significantly faded
since their wedding, or you are limited by numbers, don’t feel pressured to add
them to your guest list.
When I hold events, I typically invite everyone I
can think of, and I’m careful not to exclude anyone – cause nobody likes to
feel left out, right!? But, the buck stops here for your wedding day! If you’re
unsure about someone, or if anyone is less than 110% happy for you, don't feel
pressured to invite them – it’s a privilege to be on a wedding guest list, and people understand that there after often limitations around budgets and venue capacity.
Don’t be afraid to be brutal, it's YOUR day. End. Of. Story.
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