I’ve realised that I am in a funny age group now. All around
me there are women determined to find their one true love, marry them and have
children before they hit thirty. Tick all the boxes, so to speak. Their
insecurities are slowly poking through, insecurities they shouldn’t have, and
they need to read this.
You need to learn to love yourself.
Then, when you least expect it, that is when your knight in
shining armour will come and sweep you off your feet.
The posts on Instagram #singlelife #wegotthis are all very
well and good, but between that and the image of you done up to the nines with
cleavage for Africa, even a stranger can see that you are lonely. Anyone who
knows you understands how much you want a partner who thinks you are the world,
but matching every man and his friends on Tinder and taking them all for a
“walk in the park” is not the way to find love. Why is it that every man is going
to be different? You see it time and time again how males work when you act in
a way that shows little self-worth for yourself, they see you working your way
through the crowd, show you a little attention, you take the bait and next
you’ve just written another name in your little black book. It’s not open
season, honey, and the hunt is tiring.
What is it about this day and age that
requires the love of a man for a woman to be happy with herself? Why is it that
women seek the approval of males around them? Confidence shines, girlfriend.
You have a job, a family that loves you, a group of friends, plans for the
future. Be proud of yourself and project that out to the world. That type of
love is oh so infectious.
You don’t need a man to feel loved.
Look after you. Pamper yourself. Pop on some sexy lingerie
and dance in front of the mirror. Wear that matching lingerie and take yourself
out for lunch, alone. Learn to enjoy your own company and use that time wisely
to set yourself some goals, to think and reflect, to focus on what makes you
happy. The same goes for those of you who are unhappy in your relationship. What is
holding you back from enjoying your life, and living it fully? You don’t
deserve to be unhappy. You are not doomed if you happen to be single for a
while. The future isn’t as scary as you work it up to be. Life always has it’s
funny ways of working out, and I am one to whole heartedly believe that - I bet
you’ve also heard that line a few times! You girl, are a strong, independent women
and you can tackle the world on your own two feet. Go out there with that beaming smile of yours and get it!
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